Terms of use

Abuse Free Mama: The Safe Space is peer support, education and validation, built by a survivor who is also a former midwife of fifteen years. It exists to help you understand what happened, settle your body, rebuild your life and rise beyond survival.

This is not an emergency service. It is not therapy, counselling, medical care, legal advice or a safeguarding service, and nothing here replaces advice from a qualified professional or a specialist domestic abuse service. Nobody is watching the site around the clock.

If you or your children are in immediate danger, call 999 — press 55 if you cannot speak — or the free 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247. More safety guidance is here.

You must be 18 or over to create an account. Keep your sign-in details to yourself, and do not share your account with anyone else. You can close your account at any time.

Everything posted in the community or written to Dear Sister Survivor is read and approved by Loubie before it goes live. Please do not post real names, addresses, schools, court details, photographs, or anything that could identify you, your children or anyone else. Do not post threats, abuse, hate, advertising or legal advice.

Anything you submit may be published anonymously on this site. Posts can be declined, hidden or removed at any time, and accounts that break the house rules can be closed.

Nothing written here is confidential in law. Do not post anything you would not want an ex or a court to read.

The safety and emergency information on this site is always free. Paid membership opens the full library, the healing paths, private audio, journal and voice notes. Paid plans are not open yet; when they are, you will be able to cancel at any time and keep access until the end of the period you have paid for. Your bank statement will show a discreet wellbeing name that never mentions domestic abuse.

The teachings, workbooks, audio and writing on this site belong to Abuse Free Mama. Use them for your own healing as much as you like. Please do not copy, resell or republish them.

We do our best to keep this space accurate, safe and available, but we cannot promise it will never be interrupted. To the extent the law allows, we are not liable for decisions you take based on what you read here. Nothing in these terms limits liability for death or personal injury caused by negligence, or for fraud.

These terms are governed by the law of England and Wales, and the courts of England and Wales have jurisdiction.